A website with resources about healthy sexual development and how to deal with problematic and harmful sexual behaviour.

Menu

Yellow behaviour

 

Problematic sexual behaviour is what we consider unhealthy. Is described as YELLOW BEHAVIOUR in the Traffic Light.
Put an end to problematic sexual behaviour

It can be hard to differentiate between yellow and red behaviour. Maybe you would rather classify it as “orange”? Below is information on what measures to take when the sexual behaviour is considered yellow, but in many cases it can be helpful to look at recommended measures for red behaviour as well.

1. Talk about sexuality

 

Providing guidance about sexuality and healthy sexual behaviour is important to develop a healthy sexuality and prevent violations. Having confident, respectful adults acting as role-models of sexual behaviour and language is good. So are adults who give honest and concise answers to children’s questions about body and sexuality.

Education about sexuality should include subjects such as:

  • Sexuality – a source of joy and pleasure
  • Values and attitudes
  • Body structure: anatomy and physiology
  • Emotions
  • Puberty
  • Hygiene
  • Identity, including sexual identity
  • Sexual actions
  • Healthy and unhealthy sexuality
  • What is, and is not, okay
  • Age of consent
  • Boundaries and private areas
  • How to be a good romantic and sexual partner
  • It’s okay to wait and say no! (Consent and mentalization)
  • Image sharing and social media
  • Consequences of sexual assault (For both victim and assailant)
  • Pornography (fiction and reality)
2. Watch and observe

There is a need for exploratory conversations when children in some way signal their discomfort about something. Such signs can be something the child said or showed, outbursts, pulling away, school refusal or sexualized behaviour. Information provided by someone else is also sufficient cause for worry. The adult then needs to show they care, along with being available to talk when the child needs it or is ready to open up. Ask open questions and let the child speak. Believe in and support the child. Remember to also document questions and answers in the event of further investigation. If you suspect someone of having suffered a sexual assault, call the Child Welfare Service and express your worries. You can do this anonymously. The Child Welfare Service will advise you if you are in doubt of what to do next.